Four Tips for Avoiding Unnecessary Conflict During Divorce 

 Posted on February 24, 2022 in Divorce

While virtually no divorce can happen without conflict, certain couples experience much higher conflict than others. While the causes for this are often rooted in real and understandable disagreements stemming from a couple’s time together, other conflict is often caused by behaviors that occur during the divorce. Couples who wish to minimize unnecessary conflict can plan ahead or alter their behavior to avoid predictable problems. 

Be Honest About Finances

Many spouses try to get ahead in the asset division process by hiding assets, lying about income, or otherwise dissembling their finances. While this can have serious legal implications, like punishments for perjury or contempt of court, it also introduces a totally avoidable level of suspicion and hostility in a divorce. Once one spouse starts being dishonest about finances, it makes it much harder for future negotiations to continue in good faith. 

Negotiate in Good Faith

Negotiating in good faith means that both spouses are genuinely trying to reach a compromise about important issues without manipulation, sleight of hand, or competitiveness. When both spouses agree that they are working towards the same goal, it is much easier to reach an agreement, even if they want very different things. An important part of acting in good faith is saying what you mean, keeping the drama to a minimum, and trusting that your spouse is doing their best. 

Keep a Long-Term Perspective

Many couples get so caught up in the heat of their disagreements that they fall victim to hashing out minor differences that cause major conflict but do not impact either spouse significantly in the long run. Other times, couples will actively work against their own self-interest to try to one-up their spouse. Remember that the divorce process will eventually come to an end and that life will go on after. With this in mind, try not to engage in behavior you may regret down the road. 

Wait to Date Until the Divorce is Over

Finding out that your spouse has a new partner before the ink is dry on the divorce decree can cause unnecessary hurt, distress, and feelings of betrayal - even if such feelings seem irrational, considering the circumstances. If you must date before your divorce is finalized, keep public exposure to an absolute minimum and refrain from introducing your children to anyone new. 

Contact a DuPage County Divorce Lawyer

At The Stogsdill Law Firm, P.C., our skilled DuPage County divorce attorneys understand that conflict is sometimes unavoidable in a divorce. That is why we will work hard to help you minimize conflict whenever possible and stay focused on finalizing your divorce so you can move on with your life. Leverage our extensive experience and call us today to schedule a confidential consultation at 630-462-9500. 

Source: 

https://www.ilga.gov/legislation/ilcs/ilcs4.asp?DocName=075000050HPt%2E+IV&ActID=2086&ChapterID=59&SeqStart=3900000&SeqEnd=5400000